Therapy for People Pleasing in California

People-Pleasing Therapy is designed to help you break free from the exhausting cycle of putting others' needs ahead of your own. In therapy, you'll explore the root causes of your people-pleasing patterns, such as past experiences or unconscious beliefs that have shaped how you interact with others. Your therapist will guide you in identifying the thoughts and emotions that keep you stuck, while helping you build tools to set boundaries, prioritize your own needs, and feel confident in your decisions. This isn't about changing who you are—it's about empowering you to embrace your authenticity and create relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.

If you often say "yes" when you want to say "no," therapy could help. You might notice that you prioritize others' needs at the expense of your own, fear conflict, or feel like you constantly need approval to feel worthy. If you find yourself exhausted from trying to keep everyone else happy while neglecting your own well-being, therapy can provide a helpful space to explore these patterns and find new ways of being in the world.

Yes, therapy can help you learn to set boundaries in a way that feels healthy and appropriate, not guilt-inducing. You'll work with your therapist to understand why guilt arises when you prioritize your needs, and develop strategies to shift that mindset. Through therapy, you'll learn to honor your feelings while communicating your boundaries clearly and respectfully. Over time, setting boundaries will become a natural way of investing in healthy, supportive relationships.

The length of therapy depends on your unique needs and goals, personal history, and healing journey. Some people notice meaningful changes in a few months, while others find that deeper, long-term work is helpful for transforming deeply ingrained patterns. Your therapist or coach will work with you at your own pace, helping you uncover the root causes of your people-pleasing tendencies while building practical tools for change.

Your first therapy session is an opportunity to share your story in a safe, nonjudgmental space, while also getting to know your therapist, to make sure it feels like a good fit. You'll talk about what brought you to therapy, your experiences with people-pleasing, and your hopes for the future. Your therapist will ask questions to better understand your unique situation, share how they can help, and assess what approach might work best for you. If it feels like a good match, you'll work together to create a treatment plan that honors your goals and comfort level.

If for any reason it's not the right fit, your therapist will help connect you with another therapist on our team who might better serve your needs.

We integrate several therapeutic approaches based on your unique needs. These might include Internal Family Systems (IFS) to understand different parts of yourself, Somatic Therapy to address how people-pleasing shows up in your body, and mindfulness practices to strengthen your connection to your authentic self.

We also incorporate practical tools from evidence-based approaches like CBT and DBT to help you create lasting change.

Not at all! Learning to identify and honor your own needs will help you show up more authentically in your relationships and for your life. Constantly sacrificing your own needs and desires often leads to resentment and burnout. Therapy can help you understand that taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's necessary for creating healthy, fulfilling relationships and living a full life.

Finding the right therapist is about more than just matching specialties and schedules – it's about finding someone who truly understands you and your unique journey. When looking for a people-pleasing therapist, make sure to work with a licensed mental health professional with specific training in healing relational patterns.

At The Holistic Counseling Center, we carefully match you with a therapist based on several factors:

• Their specialized training and experience with people-pleasing patterns

• Their therapeutic style and approach

• Their personality and way of working

• Your specific needs, goals, and preferences

• Your personal history and life experiences

All our therapists are licensed mental health professionals with advanced training in both evidence-based and holistic mental health approaches. We understand how important the therapeutic relationship is, and finding the right fit is super important for deep healing work. If you ever feel your therapist isn't the best match, just let us know! We'll help connect you with another therapist on our team who might be a better fit.

Schedule a free consultation call to start the matching process and find a therapist who resonates with you. We're committed to supporting you in finding not just any therapist, but the right therapist for your healing journey.

Taking the first step toward healing can feel overwhelming, but we've made the process simple and supportive. Here's how to begin your healing journey:

1. Schedule a Free Consultation Call
Book a complimentary 15-minute consultation call with our team. During this call, we'll:

• Listen to what's bringing you to therapy

• Answer any questions you have about our approach

• Discuss which of our therapists might be the best fit

• Review practical details like fees, insurance, and scheduling

2. Your First Session If it feels like a good fit, we'll schedule your first therapy session. Your initial session is an opportunity to:

• Share your story in a safe, non-judgmental space

• Explore what’s possible in therapy, and set some goals

• Learn what tools you can start using to support your mind, body, heart and spirit

• Create a personalized treatment plan that honors your unique struggles, goals and personality

3. Moving Forward After your first session, we'll establish a regular therapy schedule that works for you. While weekly sessions are recommended initially to help establish safety and momentum in your healing journey, we understand that everyone's circumstances are different and will work with you to find a rhythm that feels supportive and sustainable.

Ready to begin? You can schedule your free consultation call by:

• Booking directly through our website

• Calling or texting us at 916.467.9539

• Emailing us at admin@theholisticcounseling.center

We know reaching out for support takes courage, especially when you're dealing with complex trauma. We're honored to be part of your healing journey.

We offer people-pleasing therapy anywhere we can legally and ethically provide therapy, which varies depending on your location. If therapy isn’t available in your state, holistic coaching may be an option for support.

If you live in one of the following locations, we can provide therapy:

• California (El Dorado Hills, Sacramento, Folsom, San Francisco, Santa Cruz)

• Colorado

• Alabama

• Arizona

• Florida

• Missouri

• Utah

• Idaho

• Washington

• Pennsylvania

If you have questions about availability in your state, feel free to text or schedule a free consultation call to learn more.

We also offer coaching for people-pleasing worldwide and can walk you through the difference between therapy and coaching on a consultation call.